It’s been a while since I’ve linked up with lovely ladies of the Not Alone Series, so I’m excited to link up today! I really enjoy this topic as I know that when I started dating Matt last fall, it took me some time to get used to this concept of encouraging men. You see, I had been single and or on/off dating for quite some time before meeting him, and in almost all of my past relationships I had to practically beg for attention. Because of this I had very low expectations and was thrown off guard when I realized that Matt actually wanted to spend time with me! He didn’t need me to ask him to spend more time with him because this was a priority of his, so how did I encourage his already chivalrous nature?
1) Be thankful! Whatever a prospective suitor goes out of his way to call you, take you out to dinner, etc., be sure to express how thankful you are! Even if you didn’t have a very good time, it probably took the guy a lot of courage to spend time with you, so let him know that you appreciated his effort.
2) Let him help you! This was probably the hardest thing for me to get used to when starting to date Matt as I have always been terrible about letting people help me, if even for something simple like carrying groceries. My general rule of thumb here? If he wants to help you with something, let him! Chances are it will make him feel really good because he got to help you, and it will ultimately help you, so it’s a win! 🙂
3) Lead him to holiness! Do whatever you can to help your guy be the St. Joseph you want him to be. What do I mean by this? If you are hanging out on a Saturday night, and he has plans to go to Mass the next morning, try to honor the importance of him getting sleep, by not hanging out until the wee hours of the night. Also, do your best to dress modestly. I know, I know, this is something that is preached so much, but we have to try to guard our guys’ hearts, so when in doubt if a top is too low, throw on a scarf or change outfits! Lastly, keep in the loop with spiritually enriching activities going on around your town. Is there a Catholic speaker you’re interested in going to? Invite him to go with you and a group of friends – a sure way to both grow in holiness while taking in a special event together!
4) Don’t let fear get in the way! A few months ago, Cindy from The Veil of Chastity, wrote what was probably one of my absolute favorite blog posts to date as she wrote about Fear. In her post she wrote about how we as women can sometimes let fear prevent us from having wonderful relationships. This fear could be the result of a fear of getting hurt or perhaps a fear of not feeling good enough to be in a relationship. My tip here? Always remember that you deserve the absolute best, so if the guy you like is incredible, that’s a very good thing!
Hope you are having a terrific Tuesday, and to read more “Not Alone Series” posts, check out the link-up over at Morgan’s blog (and check out Jen’s blog too)! I can’t wait to read the rest of your posts! 🙂